The 7 Benefits of Having a Bossy Personality

The definition of Bossy on Urban Dictionary is, "A girl who is the alpha-female or the queen bee. She is gettin paid, stayin fly, and is the leader of her crew. Respected by all, loved by some."

After I laughed my butt off at that definition, I sat down to really think about what the definition of bossy is in other people's eyes. When someone calls you "bossy" or "you're kind of bossy" it is not really a compliment. But yet it's not really an insult either. It's either someone saying, "hey you're kind of pushy with a side of bitchy." So whatever way you take in when someone calls you bossy, it's never really in a nice context. Or so I thought for awhile.

I have been told my personality is pretty "bossy" or "pushy" literally my entire life. The first I can remember someone calling me bossy was a boy in 6th grade. And middle school Natalie was kind of hurt by that statement. I think at that time I thought to myself well maybe I should just shut up sometimes and do what other people do. It would of been really easy to start altering my behavior to a more submissive, timid girl. But that's not me. The difference between me and that boy is that I don't let other people's opinions or words define my self worth.

I think instead of name calling people "pushy" or "bossy" - People with a strong personality often but not always tent to be assertive, self-confident, ambitious and hardworking which is helps them to do their job properly and to achieve high results in their career. Which last time I checked is a GOOD thing.

"Bossy" people are energetic and lead busy lives, have many hobbies and are on the move. They may be very talkative adventurous and sociable, enjoy travelling and meeting new people. They are spontaneous and unpredictable.

So I thought I'd come up with a couple reasons why having a bossy personality is bad a**!

The first benefit of having a bossy personality is that your regrets are slim to none. You aren't afraid to say what's on your mind and you rarely hold back on voicing your opinions.

The second benefit of having a bossy personality is that your confidence keeps growing with age. You used to let other people's opinions affect you - but the only person that can shake your confidence is you. Keep doing you!

The third benefit of having a bossy personality is you are pretty damn organized. You rarely lose things and you are on top of your ish!

The fourth benefit of having a bossy personality is you are always in control of making the plans within your friend group. By having that control you get to choose the dinner spots and vacay spots - aka you'll always have a good time.

The fifth benefit of having a bossy personality is having the power to influence people. When someone is confident or passionate about something, it makes you want to be passionate too.

The sixth benefit of having a bossy personality is the leadership skills you acquire in your lifetime - I know I wasn't as confident in my teens and I am now but leading my softball or volleyball team whether on the field or off always was something I loved to do. And it made me feel good about myself as well.

The seventh benefit of having a bossy personality is that you are are a go-getter. You aren't afraid of a challenge and you pride yourself on being ambitious and in the "know."

Everyone's personalities are different, and that's cool! Like really cool. If people make you feel bad about the way you are then those people don't deserve to be around you soaking up your awesomeness.

"I'm Bossy! I'm the first girl to scream on the track I switched up the beat of the drum That's right I brought all the boys to the yard And that's right I'm the one that's tattooed on his arm..."

-Kelis

Xoxo,

A Guy's Girl