Change, Why Is It So Dang Hard?

Life is a roller coaster. There are so many ups and downs, you don't even know where to start sometimes. You feel like the roller coaster is never going to end and you'll be stuck going up and down forever. When is it going to stop?

Mindsets change. People change. You change, everyday.

Yet, the only constant thing we have in life is change.

So why is it so scary? Why do we fear change so much? Are we scared we are going to fail at something new? Or is this feeling inside something so much deeper? I've been trying to figure it out for quite some time.

I think it comes down to fear. Fear of change and fear of the unknown really freaks us out. It freaks us out because we live in a world where everyone with a smart phone thinks they know everything. When we can't figure something out or someone out, we panic. We panic because we want to predict and know things right away.

For example, living in my shoes I never knew what was going to happen to me right after my injury. Some days I would have such excruiating pain I could even get in my wheelchair. Then some days I would forget about the pain and start thinking like a teenager, "like is any guy ever going to like a girl in a wheelchair?" I'm so much different than everyone else, and I never know if my situation is going to be different - which used to freak me out.

I never knew what the next day was going to bring me - was I going to go on a date and have so much pain I'd want to leave. Am I going to pass my writing class? Is my paper good enough? Am I going to get a job after college? Am I going to get into graduate school?

The future is a scary place. It's scary because we really never know whats going to happen. When I was 13, I had my entire life planned out. I was going to play softball for a D1 school and then bam, that dream was history. Sometimes, I look back on the day of the accident and think man, I wish I never went skiing that day. But dwelling.... what good is that going to do me?

My point is life is changing all around you. It's normal to miss someone or something in your life but take into account that there is so much change happening around you in your everyday life. So go out and seize it! Don't be scared of the future - embrace it.

If your girlfriend/boyfriend breaks up with you - know that there is a reason for it and something so much bigger and better is coming your way. If your hurt physically or mentally, know that you are NOT alone and there absolutely is sunshine at the end of the tunnel. Someone, somewhere is going through exactly what you are going through and you will get through it.

Change is never easy and neither is life. But the best things in your life will come from perservance and hard work. Never give up and know that your feelings will pass, I promise you that.

Be strong.

Be bold.

Embrace the changes.