The Sexiest Personality Trait To Have

Hot, sexy, pretty, beautiful, cute, good-looking, decent...

These all are descriptive words that drive young men and women across the world. We all want to be beautiful in some way - and more importantly we want someone to think we are all of those words above.

So what do we do?

As women, we dye our hair, diet, work out non stop, obsess over who we hangout with, and post sexy photos/selfies of ourselves non stop on Insta/Facebook.

Men have to act a certain way to not come off as "clingy" or "creepy." They also have to have an 18 pack like a GQ model at the pool to be considered sexy.

After we have seen all these different men and women go to extreme lengths to become someone else's idea of sexy or perfect, we judge them. I am not saying it is right but it's human nature. You can't tell me you've never thought once to yourself, "wow that spray tan is a little orange" or "Maybe you should cool it on the pre-workout to a guy with muscles bulging out of their tanktop."

As "sexy" as someone may be on the outside, is as insecure as they are on the inside. I know, you're thinking to me right now, what?! That girl is perfect - she has the perfect figure and a great personality. Why on the earth, do you think she has low self-esteem?

The society that we live in today, it's all about your physical presence. It's all about the selfie. The more you post of yourself the better. If you just lost 20 lbs, you get a lot of attention from your peers, like wow you look amazing! What's your secret, I wanna be skinny like you. If you have a lot of Instagram followers it's probably because you have a great body and you post a lot of revealing photos of yourself. Woop dee dooo!

But underneath the dieting, the fake tans, the fake nails, the fake hair, the fake eyelashes, the fake contacts.... what are you trying to hide under there? And why? When did being happy with what God gave you - stopped being enough? Is it because of the celebrity influence? Is it because of lack of faith? Is it because of the social media influence and constant pressures to be something you are not? Is it because of peer pressure and trying to fit in?

Or is it because you lost your confidence in the middle of trying to be "sexy" and "perfect" to someone. But in the midst of all of that, you really became someone you are not.

And truly, someone you have never been.

It is so easy - to be influenced by everyone around us. It is without a doubt, one of the easiest things to do. Drink this, pop that, snort that, have sex with him or don't, tear her down to make yourself look better.... the list goes on and on.

But the only thing you are doing is losing yourself. One bad decision at a time. After all those decisions you have made and at the end of the day you have to live with. Who are you? Do you like you? Do you even know why you decided to do half of those things? Was it because you wanted to?

Or was it because you were acting to be perceived a certain way in your peers eyes? Your crush? Etc?

Lets play out a scenario and throw out all the labels given to us by our peers, of being "hot" or "beautiful" where the cool thing to do was to just be yourself. Lets think of a world where being yourself is sexy.

Would you still spend 3 hours straightening your hair in the morning getting ready for school? Would you fake tan everyday? Would you spend 2 1/2 hours getting your nails done? Would you go out get plastered every weekend? Would you sleep around? Would you dress the way you dress now?

Or would you just enjoy doing the things you like to do? Like running on the beach or swimming with friends? Playing your sport you enjoy? Shop at the clothing stores you like? Eat the things you enjoy eating?

These are questions that I asked to stop and make you think about the kind of life you are living. Is it a life that you are proud of?

Maybe as a society, we have gotten the definition of "sexy" all wrong for so long that we don't even know where to begin. In my eyes, being sexy is about being smart. But not just academically smart - a driven kind of smart. Someone who motivates you to want to do more - to want to be more. In my eyes, being sexy has so much to do with whats inside than it does on the outside. Where is your body going to be in 40 years? I want to know as much as I can when I can. I want my mind to empower people not just endure them.