Cheating is Cheating: Cyber Cheating vs. Physical Cheating

Cheating, one of the biggest relationship crimes you can commit in my book.

I wanted to write this blog post for all my ladies, homeboys, family members and whoever else has had their heartbroken by someone you loved that cheated on you. Whether that cheating was plain dishonesty, virtual messaging via Facebook/Instagram or physical cheating, it is NEVER okay to lie to the ones you care about.

In today's society, it is super easy to cheat. Whether you are in a serious relationship or just started dating the temptations to cheat on our significant others are all around us. But what exactly is cheating? It's hard to narrow down what exactly it is, since we all use so many different forms of social media that make it so easy to do. In my book, cheating is defined as an act that one commits maliciously behind their significant other's back without them knowing and trying to keep it a secret before it blows up in their face. Some may call that wanting their cake and eating it too.

There are so many different ways to cheat nowadays it's almost too exhausting for me to list all the different ways for you. I don't really like to talk about my dating life, but I think my personal experience is one a lot of young people can relate to because they have gone through something similiar. When you have a feeling someone is not being honest with you the most apprioate way to remedy that problem is to simply ask them to their face what the problem is. But no one does that anymore, they would rather pretend everything is fine in their relationship then cheat with another girl instead of being honest.

HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY.

It rhymes and it's true.

I went through a breakup with a guy I had feelings for and he turned out to be not the guy I thought he was. Sure I was upset, but I was more upset I was being lied to for x amount of time.

Cheating takes all forms now. Whether your boyfriend/girlfriend is sleeping with another person or simply sending racy snapchats to them, doing something behind your significant other's back is CHEATING. No ifs, ands, or buts. Virtually cheating is just as bad as physically cheating in my book. Sure, one is a physical act over another but virtually cheating is a well planned out strategy that is just as pathetic as sleeping with someone who isn't your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Lets time travel back to middle school for a hot second, things were so much simplier if you liked a guy you were "going out" even though you didn't really ever talk or hangout. But you both knew you had feelings for each other but were scared and didn't know where they were going. The fear of the unknown is quite scary for most people. It's totally normal.

That's kind of how relationships are today, they are scary because you'll either marry this one or you will breakup. But if you are unhappy in your relationship and need to explore the field solo then do it! But be honest to your partner about it, don't go around liking other girl's bikini pictures on Instagram while your stuck in a unhappy relationship because you want the best of both worlds. It's not going to happen.

I know that when that toxic relationship I was in ended, I felt really bad about myself. Like how could I not know he was talking to so many other girls. Was I that blind? I felt so dumb. But now I know I'm not the one who should feel dumb, the cheater is.

So lastly, if you care the slightest bit about the person you are in a relationship with you will give their feelings the benefit of the doubt. Whether that is coming clean with your dishonesty or simply telling them this isn't what I want right now. Because that's the right thing to do.

So whether you're snapping sexy pics...

Liking half-naked girls photos on Instagram...

Or messaging 15 girls that aren't your girlfriend on Facebook.....