The Social Media Dating Age

"Daddy, how did you and mommy meet?"

We met on an app called Tinder.

Like, WHAT.

This is what our world has come to folks. It is no joke that things in the dating world are a hell of a lot different today as compared to back in the day. Gone are the days when, in order to get to know a person, you actually had to… get to know them. You had to dig deep in order to unearth their quirks and pet peeves, their hopes and their fears. These days, people hardly even scratch the surface. Who’s got time to engage in an actual conversation? Who’s got the attention span to keep listening? Back in the day, you called your girl on the phone, you took her on romantic dates for no reason, meeting her parents wasn't awkward, commitment didn't scare you away, and last but not least not everyone of your friends had seen her ass on an app called Instagram. The times were much simpler back then. You were happy with what you had and you appreciated it a lot.

Today, I continue to hear girls say that chivalry is dead. That boys no longer ask girls out on real dates or treat them like ladies. The reason they don't ask you out is because girls settle with not going out. What happened to standing up for what you want? And going to any measure to get it? If you wanted to be treated like a lady, then try acting like one.

On the defense, boys always say that girls are too easy these days. If they wanted to be treated with respect then maybe they should stop posting naked pictures of themselves on social media. But how else are they supposed to get attention? ;)

I kind of have to side with the boys on this one, get it together ladies. What happened to "boys what what they can't have" or "leaving something up to imagination?" Those days are loooooooong gone.

Nowadays, social media is how people measure other people's talent or self-worth. You are rated by the amount of followers you have, the places you travel to, the parties you attend, and the people you are in pictures with. That is what it has come down to. It's sad and for some, dating has nothing to do with being an kind, thoughtful, or educational individual. It was everything to do with what you look like. There is no longer a steady balance of personality traits, it's based entirely on what's on the outside. Don't get me wrong, of course it's a huge factor to be physically attracted to someone you want to date. But that's the only thing you're looking for in a woman/man, how sad is that?

What happened to the days where you wanted to become a doctor and help save lives and make a difference? Now we have the younger generation of kids growing up with aspirations to become "vine famous." But how about we start making real goals for ourselves? Starting with the relationships we seek with each other and within ourselves.

If you die today, what kind of person do you want to be remembered as? Do you want to be remembered as the Instagram infamous "model" or someone who actually made something of themselves. Someone who made concrete goals and went to any lengths to achieve them.

So here's my advice, ladies stop marketing yourselves in a way that you wouldn't want to be remembered as. At the end of the day, the only thing that you truly own is your body and reputation so start taking care of it. Enjoy being in college, be a contributor to society in a positive way, and Jesus stop settling for $2 shots and bar hookups.

If you have no interest in doing any of those things then hopefully, that guy whose pictures you were creeping through at 1AM last night decides to stalk you too.

How romantic….

Xoxo,

A Guy's Girl